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My bride wants me to take a week off work for the wedding. Is that reasonable?

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Two days (rehearsal day + wedding day) is the standard expectation. An entire week off — pre-wedding errands, day-of setup, and post-wedding cleanup — is not normal etiquette and not workable for most bridesmaids' PTO budgets. The Soft script proposes 2 days; the Firm script makes the case.

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Three scripts to push back

Soft, Firm, and Exit — pick the tone that matches how hard you need to push. Copy any version and use it verbatim.

Soft

“I'd love to help — can we figure out which 2 days are most critical so I can take focused PTO?”

Firm

“I can take 2 days off. I can't do the whole week.”

No exit script for this scenario — the Firm version is the full pushback.

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One difficult bridesmaid request doesn't make a bridezilla. Five do. Run the full Bridezilla Meter to see where the whole situation lands — and get pushback scripts for every other checked item, not just this one.

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Frequently asked questions

She doesn't have a planner. Does that make me the de facto coordinator?
No. The absence of a planner is a budget choice (or oversight) — not a bridesmaid duty backfill. Day-of coordination is a paid role; if she didn't book one, you can recommend a $300 day-of coordinator rather than absorb the work yourself.
Can I just step down as a bridesmaid if I don't want to do this?
Yes. Stepping down is rarely the first move — try one Firm-script conversation first — but it's a real option, especially when the ask itself crosses a line you can't walk back. Stepping down at least 6 months out is graceful; stepping down 3 weeks out is a crisis. The Exit script handles this without burning the friendship.
How do I know if my bride is being a 'bridezilla' or just stressed?
The Bridezilla Meter tool scores it for you. Pick everything that applies to your situation, and the total + tier tells you what you're dealing with. Most brides who get the bridezilla label are really stressed brides whose asks have drifted; some are genuinely unreasonable. Either way, the conversation needs to happen.

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