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I'm expected to design and build the wedding website. Is that a bridesmaid job?

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Not standard, and not necessary. Zola and Squarespace make wedding websites in 2 hours, look great, and are free or under $50. The Soft script redirects to one of those; the Firm script names this as outside bridesmaid responsibilities.

Save money or save your sanity — depends which one you need first

Affordable alternatives that get you out of the worst of it. Pick the dress, the spa kit, or the exit card — whichever this conversation needs.

Three scripts to push back

Soft, Firm, and Exit — pick the tone that matches how hard you need to push. Copy any version and use it verbatim.

Soft

“Squarespace and Zola wedding sites take 2 hours and look great — could we use one of those instead?”

Firm

“I'm not going to build a custom site. Zola is free, takes a couple of hours, and works.”

No exit script for this scenario — the Firm version is the full pushback.

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This is one ask. What's the rest of the picture?

One difficult bridesmaid request doesn't make a bridezilla. Five do. Run the full Bridezilla Meter to see where the whole situation lands — and get pushback scripts for every other checked item, not just this one.

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Frequently asked questions

She wants something custom — Zola won't do.
Custom wedding website design starts around $400 from freelancers and goes up. If it's that important to her, hiring a designer is the move. Bridesmaids aren't unpaid web developers.
Can I just step down as a bridesmaid if I don't want to do this?
Yes. Stepping down is rarely the first move — try one Firm-script conversation first — but it's a real option, especially when the ask itself crosses a line you can't walk back. Stepping down at least 6 months out is graceful; stepping down 3 weeks out is a crisis. The Exit script handles this without burning the friendship.
How do I know if my bride is being a 'bridezilla' or just stressed?
The Bridezilla Meter tool scores it for you. Pick everything that applies to your situation, and the total + tier tells you what you're dealing with. Most brides who get the bridezilla label are really stressed brides whose asks have drifted; some are genuinely unreasonable. Either way, the conversation needs to happen.

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